A letter to my husband
I never believed in Marriage or in a forever kind of love but I met you. The first time we met he asked me to dance. Our first date was a ride. And the others were no less of an adventure. So here is a story a few know…we were dating for a few months (this is when you’re still testing the waters getting to know all the quirks, right?) And we were on our way back from a short holiday. While I was getting in my seat he VERY casually says," Hey, I was thinking after we get married we should wait for at least 3-4 years before we decide to have kids.” And in my head, all the alarms go off. I didn’t have marriage or kids anywhere on my agenda. (Hello dude it’s just been a few months!) My instant thoughts were, time to run. Hahaha But fast forward to today we are married, still madly in love, and have a beautiful family together.
Life has gotten busy and we may not have all the time we’d like together. I know I have several mood swings, I am more frustrated than usual on most days and my emotions are usually all over the place. I know I haven’t made it easy for you to love me in the last couple of years. But you know what? I also know, when you come and hold me when I am asleep. (Let me assure you, I have the best sleep on those nights.) When you pull me to dance in the middle of the kitchen because you’ve noticed I am down. And when you make the effort to cook me my favorites on your day off. You probably think I don’t notice but, I do. And how can I forget, those I miss you messages in the middle of the day? They have the magic to instantly uplift my mood. Thank you for being there and for continuing to love me through this phase.
You should know, you are the one I turn to when in a soup, you are the one I want to share every tiny detail with and every happy news with. And you are the only medicine I need when down. You get my quirks, have so far dealt with my whims, and hop on board with every crazy idea I throw your way. From knowing when I need that bar of chocolate or glass of wine to cleaning up the house because I hate to do it.
In your arms, I feel at home. When you look at me I want time to pause. And when you kiss me, I fall in love with you all over again. Every day may not be a perfect one and we’ve had our share of bad ones. We’ve had our fights and we have our flaws. But you know what I admire? That we never walked away, we accepted our shortcomings, worked towards changing them, and gave it another go.
Everyone asked us are you crazy to get married so young. But we didn’t really care. Well when you find the one, why waste time? It’s about the journey…being together to sail through the rough seas and to be there to cheer on all the achievements. Life did throw at us some unexpected surprises ( hello, kids!) but I am so happy that it all happened when it did. You are not just an amazing partner and friend but also a fantastic dad.
Today I promise you, that I will always be there by your side through every storm and every cliff. (Maybe we can pack a picnic and enjoy the view while we are at it?) I’ll also be there to pop that bottle open and celebrate every accomplishment. To dance with you all night long and sleep under the stars even when we are old and too weak to stand. And to feed you pot roast and cake for the rest of your life. To kiss you every night even when we are wearing dentures. And to ride with you even when you are a bald old man. ( I know you’d be a handsome one even then.)
So here is to spend more nights getting drunk (edit 2023: cuddling in), having those never-ending conversations, going for many more random holidays, and growing old with you.
I love you.
Yours always,
Your best friend and wife.
